I will be brief.
It is very interesting (i.e. Unsettling) that while many children are raised with the mantra of being individual and unique, few are given the same breadth of outlook when it comes to educational and vocational paths.
I’m intrigued by the fact that so many young people, no matter their interests or professional focus, believe college to be the only available step immediately following high school.
However, this extends beyond college. This also pertains to career paths and personal choices. I am at an age when most young people are “figuring things out,” learning “how to adult,” or at least giving the impression of it. There is also the ever present trend of sharing the majority of one’s life on social media. It’s ridiculously easy to compare yourself to the friends or strangers you view each day through a screen.
Don’t do it.
I say that as someone who also likes to compare herself to other people: professionals, bloggers, entrepreneurs, classmates of random acquaintances whose pages I have no idea how I stumbled on at 1 a.m.
And nothing good really comes from shallow comparisons. Unless you are deliberately using that to drive you to work harder and achieve goals, get a hold on your scrolling.
I need to remind myself of this, so I’m going to assume someone could benefit:
We are not on linear paths. Say that again. And now I want you to picture a line graph. With multiple linear functions in parallel lines with one another. Then destroy that image. It’s not possible with the human factor.
Look at your own life, think of the multitude of experiences you have — adventures and times of loss, challenges and triumphs, all contributing to your individual, beautiful make up. No one else has the repertoire that you do. So stop thinking that just because something works for someone else, you should be doing the same thing and vice versa.
Figure out what works for you, and stick to it. Don’t be bogged down by the choices made by others. The success of others does not equate to a lack of your own.